In my teenage years, I was excited to find self-help books that promised to change my life. They didn't. The advice felt only applicable to those who were born with great qualities which I don't have. I concluded self-help was a hoax and didn't read any books in this category for 10 years.


In 2014, I hit a bottleneck in my career and I knew I must learn from external sources, so I started reading again. I finished two books and the old feelings and doubts came back. These tips are only useful to those who are disciplined, bold, strategic, and extrovert, I am good at none of those!


Fortunately, I came across "Growth Mindset" in the third book I read. After learning about "Growth Mindset" and practicing for a few months, I gained the power to effect changes for the first time in my life.

  • “Ok, so I am not very disciplined. How can I improve that?”
  • “How to be more strategic?”
  • "What do I fear and whose voices do I hear when I have them?"
  • “How can I ask better questions in conversations to not be afraid of networking?”

Each question led me to find ways to improve myself and people have noticed my changes year after year. I wish I had be introduced to it earlier in my life. I would have saved so much more time and accomplish a lot more. but hey, it's never too late!